Trib Talk: LDS singles in a family-centric church
I turn forty-one this month. My birthday gift to you, my readers, as well as to myself are these links validating what I've been saying for years as a single, never married, woman. If, like me, you also struggle with the fear that Prince Charming is never going to show up and choose you as his companion, helpmeet, wife or mother, just repeat to yourself this simple phrase.
It's not my fault.
Because the simple fact, ladies, remains. The reason why we're still not married has nothing to do with single women being too picky, greedy, selfish, too plain or homely and EVERYTHING to do with skewed numbers.
I'll be reading Jon Birger's new book, Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game (2015) as soon as it becomes available at my local library (because it's a new release, they're still processing and cataloging the title)
In the meantime, please watch the above panel discussion posted by the Salt Lake Tribune where five single Mormon women discuss the challenges of how contemporary Mormonism excludes and basically ignores the growing needs of singles in a family dominated religion as well as these follow-up articles all written in response to Jon Birger's Time magazine article.
And remember, if more men would commit to monogamy and more women would hold men to this standard, there wouldn't be so many incredible, amazing single women forced to put on a brave face everyday to hide their loneliness.
We should be wooed, and were not made to woo.
Helena
(A Midsummer Night's Dream Act II, scene i)
Have a great month. See you at Cheesecake Factory! (my favorite place to celebrate birthdays)
http://time.com/dateonomics/
http://national.deseretnews.com/article/5701/why-its-so-hard-for-women-in-religious-communities-to-find-men-to-marry.html
http://member.sltrib.com/home/2875998-168/mormonisms-dating-dilemma-is-a-guy
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