What Jesus Being Married Means to Singles

Here's the link to this Deseret News article: http://www.deseretnews.com/article/765605862/Hamblin-and-Peterson-Does-papyrus-prove-Jesus-was-married.html.
And here's the one that caught everyone's attention last week http://news.yahoo.com/jesus-married-papyrus-fragment-fuels-debate-212627918.html (Why is that not hotlinking? Oh well.)

Was Jesus married? New papyrus fragment fuels debate

news.yahoo.com

 

Anyway,

This is big news. An unproven fragment which scholars say won't change the debate between Agnostics and Christians over the celibacy of Jesus Christ, but, nevertheless, it still gives me hope. For those who are pro-marriage, it means the introduction of a two-edged sword. In a world where everyone is claiming that cohabition and gay marriage are perfectly acceptable while heterosexual marriage is obsolete, the claim that Dan Brown's theory might be true after all means we're in a whole new ballgame and for the pro-marriage and family party this is a big victory. "The implications (are) staggering," (Hamblin and Peterson).

 

This is also big news for Mormons in general. As members of the church that bears His name, aren't we, in fact, the ultimate authority on all things Jesus? Shouldn't we be stepping forward to back up this debate? With this new finding about the (possibility) of Jesus being married it raises the question, "Do we claim to worship a married Christ?"

 

I am a scholar of the scriptures. That well-worn, studied-to-death Bible and Book of Mormon (triple combination) in the photo above I've been using since my high school seminary days. I brought them to Atlanta, Georgia in 1997-99, and I've taken the New Testement class at every college and university LDS Institute I've ever attended.

Now, in every single New Testement class I've ever sat in, without fail, this question has always come up, "Was Jesus married?" and every single teacher/professor in said class has always given the same answer, "Well, the church has never made an official statement but many Bible scholars agree that, yes, he most likely was and that his wife was most likely Mary Magdalene." The teacher would then site several references in the New Testament to back up the claims-such as all the examples where Mary is present during important times in the Savior's ministry.

I agree with all my teachers who support these claims, that Jesus was married.

 

With General Conference coming up in just a couple weeks, wouldn't it be nice if one of the bretheren (Elder Holland?) would step forward and give an official statement to make it final? Two years ago Elder Packer made strong statements regarding homosexuality. I could totally see the same thing happening here. Another challenge to those who would tear down and make light of what should be the most important decision we ever make on earth-backed up by Jesus himself! 

 

And who better to agree with such claims than us single, never married women who yearn for a more feminine friendly world instead of the misogyonistic drenched one we are currenly forced to live in? A married Christ means a more feminine Christ. A married Christ means a movement back to domesticity and procreation within the bonds of holy matrimony.

 

The arguments of those against such statements will crumble like sand, wait and see.

 

 

Temple Marriage is Like Olympic Gold

We’ve been training for this our entire lives. As early as age twelve we begin hearing, “One day you will start dating so prepare now.” The minute we turn sixteen we hear, “Don’t settle for anything less than temple marriage,” and “You marry who you date so choose wisely”. We all want the gold. We all want to be winners. We dedicate ourselves to our goal and promise our coaches we will not waver. Our eyes are wide open. We’ve trained and worked hard, but some of us end up getting benched for no good reason. We’re not even called, let alone chosen, to go out on many dates. Some of us are just not dating while Molly Mormon meets Peter Priesthood. He asks her out and three months later they’re off printing wedding announcements and planning the reception.

They make it look so easy.

What’s it all for, anyway? This training was supposed to lead us to that Olympic gold-the temple. We see married people like the demi-Gods of the Olympics. Endowed with special talents, super-powers, they’re able to summon a soul-mate right into their lap with a single smile. They did the time. They put forth the effort. They worked hard and now they are reaping the success. They won their “Olympic Gold”.

They make it look so easy.

Meanwhile, the rest of us are stuck waiting for the blue light special to visit the meat market we attend each Sunday. Will this be the year I finally win the gold? I know my eternal companion is out there, I just have to keep working and training. Yet, you never even saw that mob of eighteen year old freshmen descending like vultures, crowding out all the competition.

They make it look so easy.

Winning “Olympic Gold” at increasingly younger ages has become the norm. Yet, for older participants who fear they may have “aged out” there is hope. Some managed to beat the odds, even after being told their season for an “Olympic Gold” had long passed them by. You know who these people are. They stuck to their goal and didn’t give up. They were blessed for their patience.

Now, your sixth roommate, best friend, and second cousin have all announced their engagements to you in the same week. Suddenly, patience is a hard virtue to call upon. You swallow that lump in your throat and force a happy smile as you watch them mount the podium and receive their medal as the music plays. You know the last thing you want to do is exercise good sportsmanship and be happy for them in their success but you will do it, because your coach is counting on you to set the example. 

With the passing of time, anyone who repeatedly endures this particular Olympic event with no victory forthcoming deserves a gold medal!

You make it look so easy.

Pornography kills.
Porn hurts everyone. We all know the names: Susan Powell, Trolley Square, Columbine and we can now add Aurora, Colorado. Men, young and old, are going crazy and no one can really say why.
I can.
In light of recent current events I feel the need to comment. My half baked idea/opinion may not count for much, my claim to connect the evils of pornography with the motives of mass shooters like James Holmes, Sulejman Talovic, and al-Qaeda may seem pretty out there but I feel strongly that there is a connection. Does the name Jerry Sandusky ring any bells? And how about Chick-Fill-A's awesome statement condoning gay marriage? All of it can be traced back to pornograhy.
Single unmarried women know. If more young men put down the electronics and started focusing more on all the gorgeous women surrounding them, they wouldn't be attracted to it and would be more inclined to ask us out on dates. I read an article (which I will post link to if I ever find it) that really stuck with me about a study done where young men who turned off the TV, put down the video game controllers and electronic devices, after a certain length of time, reported being more attracted to the young women in their social circles, school and college classes.
If only Josh Powell turned off the computer.
If only James Holmes had applied his intellegence for good, instead of choosing the dark side. Maybe police won't ever reveal the pornographic images they will find on his computer because it won't seem relevant to the case. Same goes with Sulejman Tolovic. Do you know what they do to female victims of pornography in Iran and Iraq? They stone them to death.
July is the time to celebrate our independence. So while we shoot off fireworks and fire up the BBQ let's also take a leaf from Professor Moody's book from Harry Potter: Constant Vigilance!
We can raise awareness. We all know someone who is struggling with this evil addiction. We can teach our young boys to be like Joseph in the Old Testament and RUN AWAY when temptation grabs their jacket, even if it means being ridiculed by friends. The time is coming when we must all start choosing sides.
Even if it means losing customers who walk out of your fast food restaurant in offense.

One Year Later

"Little House in the Big Woods" by Laura Ingalls Wilder, p. 185

"Ramona and Her Father" by Beverly Cleary, p.159

      It was one year ago, June 2011 when I created this blog. I was getting REALLY tired of being single. I wondered if there were others out there who felt the same. Others who were looking for a support group. A place to share and vent the frustrations of wanting to fill the measure of their creation without getting kicked out of their religous organization. A place to gather in support of how desperately the world needs more good family men, husbands, fathers and providers-such as the two featured in the above illustrations. I feel strongly it's up to us women-both married and single-to remind the rest of the world of the importance of maintaining these now "old fashioned values" and that the "Ozzie and Harriet" life is not dead.
     As a novice writer it was also a place to experiment and improve the quality of my art for writing is truly an art. Writing is the ability to manipulate the english language to create impressions on human hearts that stand the test of time. If my writing can even come close to the genius of Wilder or Cleary I will have reached my goal. I will continue to work hard at the University to earn my second bachelors in English. I will also continue to write and post here. I need the practice.
     As June is the month to celebrate Father's Day I thought I'd post two illustrations from two of the most beloved children's authors of the last century (and two of my own personal writing heroes) Laura Ingalls Wilder and Beverly Cleary. The paperback copies I owned by these two women I literally wore out in my reading as a young girl. With my own biological father pretty much MIA I had to look for father figures elsewhere. I found them in books and the religious magazines published by my church. Bono of U2 is also such a father. See my post for April 2012 here:  http://www.oldmaidmormon.blogspot.com/2012/04/family-vs-u2.html
     Both those illustrations always bring a tear to my eye. Lucky girls, Ramona and Laura, happy and secure with Daddy and Pa. What must it be like to enjoy that kind of relationship with the person who gave you life? But I need not cry for long. Good men are out there and I can be grateful my two nephews have such a father in their lives. Someone who is always there, even for seemingly insignificant moments like just snuggling on a couch as well as someone to help you fight your dragons and cheer you on. I just read in the paper the other day about a father who beat the hell out of a man he caught molesting his daughter. Yes, we needn't despair. All over the world good men are quietly doing their jobs as husbands and fathers for the sake of their children. In celebrating Father's Day I hope those who have such father figures in their lives will tell them thank you.

A Difficult Day for Singles

     Is Father's Day as hard for single, never-married men as Mother's Day is for single never-married women? Unrequited love is just one of life's catastrophes but it leaves far too many good women isolated and trapped in their own bitter disappointment. While the rest of the world celebrates the ultra-feminine fairytale of virgin girls who married a good husband, father and provider, had a busload of squeaky clean kids who adored her and they all lived happily ever after; the earth shattering reality is that this picture has become very rare indeed. The fact is all women-young and old-live with a ticking time bomb of a maternal clock while men are free to prance around as the playboys of the western world. Society has gradually turned a blind eye to these changing lifestyles. As a result America is rapidly turning into a nation of unhappily blended and divorced families. Mother's Day will never be the same.
     I'll come right out and say it, I'm sick and tired of the LGBT groups hogging the spotlight of marriage and parenthood rights while those of us who remain true to our V-cards are labeled second-class citizens. Let the gauntlet be thrown down in the battle for who yearns the most to become a spouse and parent to precious children conceived in wedlock legal and binding. LGBT groups better want it bad cause the ever shrinking moral majority of America still exists and we're gonna put up a fight. Hang in there my fellow single sisters, the moral right WILL prevail! One day we WILL have the opportunity to become wives and mothers to busloads of our own and we too will live happily ever after. We can sympathize with LGBT groups but the fact remains sex outside of marriage is never acceptable, has proved a threat to society and must not be condoned. We will all have the oppportunity to fill the measure of our creation. Don't ask me how that's going to work-I just write what my heart tells me and leave the rest up to God.
     So, with that out of the way, I'm glad we have this day to honor the unrecognized and unsung heroes in the lives of good people-your mother. She's the one person Jesus himself called "Woman" for a person's mother should always be the "Ultimate Woman" revered and honored above all other women. This is especially true if you're a young single man. When you're a single unmarried woman, I say Mother's Day is the perfect excuse to give yourself a day off-so I skipped church today.
     As I've gotten older and moved into my own solitary apartment, Mother's Day has only grown harder. I have fond memories of my own mother sewing clothes and making dolls, reading me stories, teaching me how to make my first batch of brownies while struggling to get along with a man she didn't love. Then I grew up and committed the unforgivable sin of not getting asked out on lots of dates, marrying and providing my divorced and remarried mother with grandchildren. I'm independant, a non-yuppie who never had a career and I refuse to "settle" for anyone just so I can have a man in my life. That's what I told my dear old mother and our relationship has been rocky ever since.
     So, for everyone out there who does enjoy a nurturing and special relationship with your own wise and supportive mother while living the yuppie life-I'm happy for you. Go call her and if she has any good advice on how to deal with the lonely, hard-knock life swimming in the ever shrinking dating pool of potential husbands, please-share!
 

Family vs. U2

  

 Hard to believe it was ten years ago at this time-April 2002-I bought my very first U2 album and became an immediate fan on an unsuspecting Saturday afternoon. I was living in Cedar City, Utah going to school at Southern Utah University. I spent my weekdays commuting to the Wal-Mart Distribution Center forty miles south in Hurricane with homework, laundry, cleaning the apartment I shared with my roomates on Saturdays and church on Sundays. Though my days were full and busy I yearned for the unconventional simple life of homemaker, wife and mother. I was so tired of working to support myself. I was tired of all the competition among the large population of college girls just like me clinging desperately to the hope that one day we could obey our church leaders, cast off the shackles of our careers and live the humble productive lives our mothers and grandmothers once enjoyed. Fill the measure of our creation.
     Alas, in a town with a population of twenty year old females greatly outnumbering the males-good men who aspire to be husbands and providers to future families of their own are hard to come by. Which is what led me to the (only) local Wal-Mart that fateful Saturday after I'd finished my chores at the laundromat proceeding to do my weekly grocery shopping. My daily commute was long, surrounding mountains made the one local alternative rock station hard to tune into and I'd been wanting some new music to help pass the time. Walking out with "All That You Can't Leave Behind" I had no idea just how literally that title would apply to my life.
     Didn't realize it at the time but I fell in love that day. Here were four men who were dedicated to their family, partners, children, yet had managed to make inspiring, uplifting music. Sure, I'd heard of "The Joshua Tree" who wasn't familar with such warhorse hits as "With or Without You" and "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For" but this new album really opened my eyes and for three solid weeks it stayed in my car's CD player. Who were these musicians? Why had I never bought any of their music before? I went online to find out and discovered the fan websites, biographies and mailing lists. I checked out "The Unforgettable Fire" Washington County library's one and only book about the band and devoured it. If blogs had exisited back then...
     It was an instant connection. Here were four men who understood the old school traditions of wooing a woman while rocking the world. Here were good men who believed in that old-time religion and sought to make it a part of their lives while following their dreams. They had succeeded and they made me believe my own humble dreams had just as good a chance of becoming possible. I had found what I was looking for.
     By Christmas of 2003 I was living alone in St. George, finishing my student teaching while working nights at the warehouse and trying not to let my obsession with Bono cloud my judgements. He was one of the reasons I moved up to Salt Lake after the new year. I'd missed their last concert tour and when U2 next came to town I realized the only venue big enough to hold them would be in our capitol city and that I needed to be there.
     I moved to the Salt Lake area in January 2003 and never looked back. I joined my little sister in her apartment and threw myself into substitute teaching. When a career in this field never presented itself, I turned, like a druggie, to the music of U2 and found comfort and solace.
     Sitting in one of the sealing rooms of the Salt Lake Temple, watching that same little sister cross the threshold from singleton into the land of eternal matrimony, it was the music of "Mysterious Ways" playing in my head like an iPod yet to be invented, that comforted me. The meaningful stares from my mother were hard to miss as I, the oldest daughter, had failed in accomplishing the greatest task she was sent here to do-multiply and replenish the earth-even if that meant marrying just for the sake of being married, which I refused to do. I turned up my nose at losers with no prospects, weak testimonies and ambitions. If I did marry, I wanted someone with the qualities of a U2 frontman: a leader, a committed family man whose desires to follow God and choose the right paralleled mine. Bono was anything but a loser. He'd set the bar for the kind of man I wanted to marry and I wouldn't "settle" for anything less.
    
     Time passed and Mary gave birth to a darling baby boy. I didn't realize it at the time but the minute Calvin was placed in my arms, that spot Bono had occupied on my "pedestal" for so many years was replaced by another. Poor Bono. He never stood a chance. Who could compete with such an adorable little face? Why settle for an aging idol who doesn't even know my name when, for the first time in my life, the love I was giving was being returned threefold by a little child?
     I now have a second little nephew to expand my growing circle of love. Meanwhile, the sparkling glow of my old U2 obsession grows dimmer with each passing year. Bono and company will always have a special place in my heart, of course, but something of far greater value and worth has slowly creeped in and taken over, Edge-ing out (pun intended) all other competition!

Happy St. Paddy's Day

Meet my new nephew, Charles Kay Williams, just over two weeks old today. My thanks to sister Mary for letting me get a photo with him and not freaking out about posting it online.
I had the opportunity to babysit him last week while Mary took Calvin to preschool before heading to a doctor's appointment. He was just so sweet to rock and cuddle and burp while his blue eyes stared in newborn wonder at this strange woman cooing down at him.
I hung out at their house for a good part of the afternoon, spending time with my two favorite nephews.
Forget the dirty looks I'm about to get from all the Betty Friedan's out there, life on planet earth just doesn't get any better than this. If I could have my wish I'd gladly give up living the Virginia Woolf dream-having a room of my own and a modest income a year in order to create and write. I'd rather be mommyblogging and, since it's St. Patrick's Day, married to this guy:

Too bad he's alrady taken!

May the luck of Irish grant the deepest desires of all the single, unmarrieds like me out there.

Next post: celebrating my ten year anniversary as a U2 fan